Bill Carter's words

Bill Carter was a fantastic man.  He did so many great things at the church.  He built the altar, pulpit, and communion rails.

He was also very wise.  He passed on many things to me.  A couple of his sayings that were humorous 🦴 still resonate with me.

When we were designing the new church, the architect had drawn a private bathroom next to the pastor's office.  I said, "hey if we put the door on this side, the entire staff can use it, the pastor doesn't need his own bathroom."  Bill replied saying, "you won't always be the pastor here."

He was right.  And I will tell you that there were many times when I was very appreciative of that private bathroom.

Another time was in 1994, I had just arrived at Woods Chapel UMC.  There were six exterior doors on the old building and all of the panic bars were worn out.  One in particular, we had trouble dogging the panic bar open.  I asked him to come work on that door.  He came by and worked on all of the doors.  When he was done, he called me over to one of the doors.  It was not the door that I had asked him to work on.

He started to tell me how the panic bars worked.  I started to tell him that this wasn't the door in question.  Before I could finish he said something profound... He said, "son, you are talking when you ought to be listening."

Initially I felt hurt for a moment or two, then I realized that he was right.  And I have thought of it many times afterwards, I still think of it today.

Are there times when you are, when I am talking when we ought to be listening???

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Memorial Day

Memorial Day... a day to remember those who fought in our wars. Whether we agreed with the wars or not, to fight in the military is a sacrifice that I believe deserves respect.

Memorial Day is also a day to remember our loved ones who have gone on before us. My Dad, Paul Brinkman. My mother, Mary Brinkman. My friends, Dan Horn, Joel Horsch, Jonny Cross, Robin Fisher, Kent Chappelow and Kathy Krueger.

It is sad to lose those that we love.  When we love someone, we set ourselves up for pain.

The older I get, the more time I spend thinking about life. What a gift it is! What a joy it is to be alive. I also believe that whatever is on the other side must be pretty good too.

But for now, let us live, let us love, let us live lives of gratitude. We only get one shot at this, so let's make the most of every day and every moment that we have left.

It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to be the good.

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Mystery still

As I have been thinking about the God who is beyond us, the God who is found in mystery, I remembered again the story of the salt doll. I have posted it before, but it has been a while.

"A salt doll journeyed for thousands of miles over land, until it finally came to the sea.
It was fascinated by this strange moving mass, quite unlike anything it had seen before.
“Who are you?” said the salt doll to the sea.
The sea smilingly replied, “come in and see.”
So the doll waded in. The farther it walked into the sea the more it dissolved, until there was very little of it left.  Before the last bit dissolved, the doll exclaimed in wonder, “now I know what I am!”

When we fall into the mystery of God we come to know ourselves better. We let go of the need to be right. We let go of the need to be in control.  We let go of doctrine.  When we fall into the mystery of God and dissolve into him, we find a comfort, a rest, a peace.

Wade in. The water is fine.

It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to be the good.

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Male or Female or ?

I grew up in a culture where all pronouns relating to God were male.  He, Him, Father.  To this day, I am still comfortable with that.

But do we believe that God is really a male?  Come on...

A politician got in trouble recently for referring to God as non-binary.

Non-binary means "denoting, having, or relating to a gender identity that does not conform to traditional binary beliefs about gender, which indicate that all individuals are exclusively either male or female:"

We can get very uncomfortable with language about God. I want to suggest to you that God is not male or female or non-binary.  God is beyond our description.  God is bigger than our ideas.

Instead of trying to control God with our ideas, lets consider him as bigger than our thoughts and just enjoy the beauty of the big giant mystery that God is.

Isaiah 55:8-9 “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” declares the LORD."

Fall into the mystery.

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Doctrine or mystery?

If you grew up in the church, you were taught doctrine.  You were taught what to believe.  Doctrines, are a collection of ideas accumulated and formulated by men.  They take random ideas and random scriptures and create doctrines, ideas or pathways about God and salvation.

There are 1,000s of different ideas about God and salvation.  Who says that the one you and I were taught is right?  The next pastor picked a few different ideas and scriptures and shaped something else.

Ultimately, God is bigger than doctrines.  People can quote the Bible, but GOD is bigger than the bible.  The bible is not GOD.  God is bigger.  Period.

Ultimately I think that we can know three things about God:

1.  God is good

2.  God is loving

3.  God asks us to follow him and to be loving and kind.

Beyond this, our knowing of God is a journey into the mystery of something that is so very much bigger than we are.

Are you living in a world of doctrine or a world of God's infinite mystery???

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quote 2

Quote 2 from the book "Sabbath."  By the way, if you want to buy this or any book, I was introduced to a site called Dealoz by my friend Alexandra.  There is a dealoz app.  I can usually get used books in great condition for a very very good price.

Quote 2: 

"In order to retain an idea of the holy God, to perpetuate the presence of God, His image is fashioned.  Yet a God who can be fashioned, a God who can be defined, is but a shadow of man."

Let me extrapolate... In order to secure the concept of God, in order to stay close to God, in order to feel like we understand God, we humans create images... Maybe a stone idol, maybe a church sanctuary, maybe a collection of doctrines.  Yet, any God that can be defined by man, is but a shadow of man, a creation of man, a figment of His true being.

God is bigger than our doctrines, he is bigger than our notions of him.

It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to be the good.

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new book

A friend recommend a new book to me.  The title is "The Sabbath" the author is Abraham Joshua Heschel.  A Jewish theologian, the book was originally published in 1951.

Over the next few days I am going to post some quotes from the book.  The theme that I am encountering in the early chapters is this... We focus too much on collecting stuff and having more.  In doing so, we miss the gift of time.  We miss the gift of enjoying this precious moment.  

Here we go... [quote edited by me...]

"There is a realm where the goal is not to have, but to be, not to own, but to give, not to control, but to share, not to subdue, but to be in accord.  Life goes sideways when our acquisition of things becomes our sole concern."

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just sit

Last weekend I was invited to officiate a wedding in North Carolina.  Outside of Ashville, we stayed in a lovely cabin that had a fantastic view of the mountains.

I did something that I have not done for a long time.  I sat on the porch and enjoyed the view.  It was wonderful.  It was peaceful.

I realized that I can do this anywhere.  I can do this on my back porch at home.  I think I am going to start making a habit of just sitting for a bit.

Meditation.  Appreciation.  Joy.  Slow things down.  Enjoy the moment.  It feels good to the soul.

It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to be the good.

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self-less

From my friend Arthur...

I heard this recently;  "Being selfless isn't thinking less of oneself,  it's thinking of one's self less."

Jeff says... I would add, being selfless isn't thinking less of one's self, it is thinking of others more.  It is thinking more of others.  It is noticing others.  It is seeing others.

Being selfless doesn't denigrate me.  It lifts up others.  And that makes me feel happy and fulfilled.

It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to be the good.

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cranky

I bought a new battery for the car.  I paid online and picked it up from the store.  An employee brought it out to me in the pick up area.

The next day, I took the core [old battery] in to Walmart automotive.  The woman informed me that she could not refund the core charge due to a glitch in her system.

Back and forth we went.  She wanted me to leave the battery with out receiving the core charge refund.  Back and forth we went.

I am trying to be nice, but this does not make sense.  I have dealt with this woman before.  She is always cranky.  It is like she is unhappy in her life and so it boils out to everyone that she comes in contact with.

And I wonder... did she think that I was cranky?

You know what they say, when I point one finger at another, there are three pointing back at me.  How am I coming across even in, especially in the frustrating moments of life???

It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to be the good.

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focus on what you love

This is a thought from the book, "The Boy, The Mole, The Fox and The Horse as shared by my friend Kathy.

Sometimes life does feel out of control.  Especially as we grow older, there are so many things that happen.  Our children move away, age takes it's toll on our bodies.  There is often a growing sense of disconnection.  Unforeseen and unwanted change can do that to a person.

If you find yourself in such a spot, here is the advice from the book:  don't get lost in all of the crazy stuff.  Don't focus on it.  Look around, see what you love, give thanks for that and enjoy that.

There are plenty of things and plenty of people to love.  Let's let our hearts live there.

It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to be the good.

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Awareness

Awareness... it is paying attention... seeing who you are and acting out of your best part...

From my friend Courtney...

When we start paying attention to how we affect others, we start changing our behavior.  What message are your words delivering?  What direction are your thoughts taking you?  Are you paying attention to the people that you are with???

It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to be the good.

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more power

In response to yesterday's post, a friend wrote in and said, "When I read the word 'power' my first thought was, that power is the ability to invoke change.  I wish I had more power."

I think that this is a sentiment that all of us can share.  I wish I could help people understand.  I wish I could get people to listen.  I wish my kids...

I would simply say this... we all have power.  Make sure that you are using every bit of it at your disposal to affect positive change.

Don't fail to do something, just because you can't fix everything.

You can make a difference.

It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to be the good.

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power

In moments of power, are you thinking about you and what you want?  Do you use your power to consume and control things to your benefit?

Or are you thinking about God?  Do you think about His justice and kindness?

This is the topic of the Sermon on May 31.  Stay tuned.

It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to be the good.

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Yellowstone

I have been watching the series "Yellowstone." I picked up a great quote:

"It’s the shame that hurts the most, you know.
But shame is in the mind.
You can turn that faucet off whenever you want to."

I love it... As human beings, we can only think about one thing at a time. Let’s talk about Chief's football. Patrick Mahomes and Travis Kelce.  Whoop Whoop!!!

Then let’s stop and talk about war in Iran. Three aircraft carriers in the Middle East.  Do you notice how when I started talking about aircraft carriers you forgot about the Kansas City Chiefs?  We can only think about one thing at a time.  

When your mind is stuck feeling bad about who you are or what you’re doing, turn off that faucet, just start thinking about something else.  Like how much you are loved by God.

It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to be the good.

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I missed Mother's Day

I apologize.  Yesterday was Mother's Day and I didn't say anything about Mothers.  

I don't know why... I am not a mother [and it is always about me right?]  My relationship with my mother was troubled until the very end.  I did get my wife a card.

I know that there are many many many great mothers and you all deserve to be honored.  Thank you.  Bless you.  Hugs to you.   We appreciate you so very much.

I guess we all have days when we miss something important.  I think that it is important to admit it when we miss the boat.  I will be sure to do better next year.

It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to be the good.

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Everyone needs to be noticed

From time to time, everyone needs to be noticed.  We were at a winery in Napa last week and I noticed this big fat bumble bee just walking on the ground.

A bee?  He might sting me.  Then I thought, why hurt him, he is after all, a beautiful creature of God.

I decided to just watch him and appreciate him.

Sometimes we are worried that people will hurt us, so we make a preemptive strike and crush them.  But let me just say that everyone needs to be noticed and appreciated from time to time.  Even me, even you.

Do no harm.  Do all the good that you can.

It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to be the good.

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kindness again, kindness still...

"Love- Practice kindness every day to every one that you meet and you will soon realize that you are already in heaven now..."  Jack Kerouac

Thanks to my friend Bruce for sending this... and you know it is true... in this life, on this earth, we can create our own hell or our own heaven...

And from my friend Patricia...  "If you are going to be one thing on this earth, be kind."

It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to be the good.

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to take or to give

To take or to give, how are you wired?  I think initially, we are all wired to take.  We love to make it about us.  But somewhere along the way, I hope that we wake up and move away from selfishness.

What is better?  To consume this life or to be good to others?  What feels better to you?  Taking may feel good initially, but in the long run, I think that learning to give, learning to live a generous life makes us feel much better as humans.

How are you wired???

Are you a consumer, or have you come to realize that you are here to help others???  Do you want to feel good about being alive today?  Find someone to be good to.

It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to be the good.

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Tell me that I am ok

Sometimes we need someone to tell us that we are ok.

I called a friend.  He answered the phone.  He was out watching his son playing softball.  I said I’m sorry to interrupt.  We’ll talk another time.

The next day he called me and he asked what I wanted.  And I said I didn’t want anything.  I was just calling to hear your voice and have you tell me that I’m OK.

I thank God for the people in my life that tell me that I’m OK.  Personal connections in this life are so important.

And if you don’t have anyone in your life, that tells you you’re OK, call me and I will tell you that you’re OK.


It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to be the good.

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A prayer for these times...

I got this from my buddy Bruce. The author is someone named Nadia Bolz-Weber.  Spoiler alert, it includes a bad word...


Dear God,

Not sure if you’ve noticed, but the world feels pretty unhinged at the moment.

Reading the news makes me feel powerless, angry, and terrified. And because I don’t want to feel like that all the time, I sort of zone out on TV and Instagram, which makes me feel better...for a minute. Then I just feel worse, because life is rare and precious and we only get so many hours, and I just spent 1.2 of them scrolling videos an algorithm picked out just for me, because apparently I’m both more predictable and more manipulable than I like to think.

So, I won’t ask for you to fix the world to suit me because better people than I have tried those prayers and they don’t work, so could you maybe just help me be in this world without letting it hollow me out quite so much?


And if you’re not going to just fix this shit (which, again, I assume you’re not), then could you help me to see where you ARE knitting together what I’ve unraveled, where you ARE ushering in reconciliation between people who have disappointed each other again, where you ARE quietly loving us into tomorrow?

And please let me know what I can do down here, even if it’s small. (And make it obvious please, because I tend to miss the subtle stuff).

Like what kindness I can offer that might not fix the world, but at least help another person survive this day on your Earth? And forgive me for not noticing how often other people are doing the same for me, because I’m too busy freaking out.

And if it’s not too much to ask, a few more good TV shows soon?

Amen.


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When is Cinco de Mayo this year?

When is Cinco de Mayo this year?

Today is Cinco de Mayo. Cinco = five. Mayo = May. The fifth of May.


I love to ask people, "when is Cinco de Mayo this year?" Many people recognize it as a holiday but do not understand that it is date specific. Much like someone from another culture might hear that we celebrate a holiday called July 4th. If the words July and fourth don't translate well into their language, they might not know it was a specific day.

Did you know that Cinco de Mayo is not celebrated very much in Mexico? [I have readers who disagree with this]  Cinco de Mayo is actually a fabricated holiday for Americans to drink margaritas and have a party.

It is also not the Mexican day of Independence. That is September 16th. Cinco de Mayo celebrates a Mexican victory over French forces at the Battle of Puebla, May 5th 1862.

Anyway, today is Cinco de Mayo. When is it next year?




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Star Wars Day

Yes it is here again... Star Wars Day!

I remember when the original Star Wars movie came out. I was 19 years old at the time and visiting my friends in San Jose, California. I was there for two weeks. I saw the movie seven times during that visit.

Why is today Star Wars Day?

May the Forth be with you!!!



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pay it forward

A friend gave me a ride to pick up my car from the mechanic.  I thanked him.  The next morning I sent a text thanking him again and offering to buy breakfast or lunch.

He said, you owe me nothing.  Pay it forward.

Do you pay it forward?  Do I?  Do I need to have something good happen to me before I pay it forward, or is it possible that I can start a cycle of kindness by just doing gracious things for people.

Who will you bless today?

It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to be the good.

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generosity for anyone

Generosity.  I think that we think that it is only done by and only for the wealthy.  Today, I file a disagreement.  I think that generosity is practiced by generous people, regardless of the size of their bank account.

The other day I took an uber.  The driver and I had a good talk.  She told me about her life and about the kind of people that ride with her.

Uber charged me $20 for the ride.  She was paid $4 by Uber.  This is why we should always leave a nice tip for an Uber or Lyft driver.

She told me about how she knows all of the homeless people in town.  They don't own cars, so the have to Uber sometimes when the bicycle isn't enough.  She told me about how she always takes them to Wendy's or McDonalds and buys them a sandwich.

Here is a person who does not have much in terms of the world's wealth, but has a very generous heart.

We don't have to wait to win the lottery to live a generous life. 

It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to be the good.

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for a reason???

My Pastor said it last Sunday... "never say, everything happens for a reason."  I totally agree with him.  When a human says, "everything happens for a reason," they think that they are honoring God but actually they are doing the opposite.

They are insulting God and making him the cause of childhood cancer, murder and rape.  My wife worked for three years in the Neuro-Blastoma ward at Children's Mercy Hospital in Kansas City.  During that time, scores of children came through with that disease.  Every one of them died.  Did God do that?

When humans say that everything happens for a reason, we are also minimizing God, boiling him/her/it down to something that can be controlled and understood by the human mind.

Life is a mystery.  Pat little answers are not helpful.  Sometimes things happen.  Sometimes bad things happen.  That does not mean that God is the cause of these things.  He does not bring us evil, he stands with us in our pain.

There is often something that we can learn from difficulty, but please do not blame God for every thing that happens.  He stands with us each day that we are alive on this earth.

It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to be the good.

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Sherri Swanson and I are leading a trip to New Zealand January 30-Feb 12, 2027
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dealing with grief

Not to diminish anyone's grief.  We have all had it, and we will certainly have more in the future.  This is a quote from the Paramount+ show "The Madison"

"After grief, you will have as much life to live as you allow yourself.  Or you will have none.  You have to give yourself permission to move on."

In other words, we control how we respond to what happens in our life.   Yes there are painful things, but if we let them take over our entire being, we are no good for us, no good for our family, no good for God, no good for anyone.

Allow yourself to live and love.

It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to be the good.

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Sherri Swanson and I are leading a trip to New Zealand January 30-Feb 12, 2027
If you want to sign up, you can use my host number 17768 or Sherri's 57707
Here is a link for more information
Click here for New Zealand Info

Sherri Swanson and I are also leading a Canada/New England cruise in September of 2027
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Negativity

Oh, the negative impact of negativity...

Consider all of the negativity that has been poured into so many of us.  Some of it came from our parents, some of it came from our churches...

• you are bad
• you are a sinner
• you will go to hell
• you better not do that
• do not embarrass me
• do not veer from the straight and narrow
• do not break the rules
• be good or else

After a while, after enough of this kind of indoctrination, our inner voice is no longer the voice of God's love, but the guilt laden tapes that came from our parents and our high demand churches.

It is time for the voice in our head to change... It is time for us to learn to hear the voice of God...

• I love you
• you are worth it
• you are forgiven
• you are loved, just as you are
• you are good
• life is good, enjoy it, live it
• be happy in your heart
• you are loved

If your brain is filled with negativity and worry, you can change it.  Just start working on reminding yourself of what God says about you.  It takes time, but you can reprogram your brain.  You can come to actually believe that you are loved by God.

It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to be the good.

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Sherri Swanson and I are leading a trip to New Zealand January 30-Feb 12, 2027
If you want to sign up, you can use my host number 17768 or Sherri's 57707
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Sherri Swanson and I are also leading a Canada/New England cruise in September of 2027
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take a breath

I got this from my friend Bruce...

And so I comment on this meme.  First of all, the woman reminds me a bit of Mary Weden.  

But the message is good.  Most of us worked so hard along the way trying to accomplish something, that we did not understand that simply just living was the gift.

Hopefully in retirement, we can take a breath and enjoy the journey.

And if you are younger, like my friend Abby, please take time to enjoy more of life along the way... more than I did.

It is too easy to live on auto-pilot/cruise control.  Instead, look to see the sunsets.  Smell the roses.  Hug a friend!!!

No achievement is more important than the joy and life that we find along the way.

It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to be the good.

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Sherri Swanson and I are leading a trip to New Zealand January 30-Feb 12, 2027
If you want to sign up, you can use my host number 17768 or Sherri's 57707
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Click here for New Zealand Info

Sherri Swanson and I are also leading a Canada/New England cruise in September of 2027
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We all have our bias

A Bias is the filter that you use to see the world.  [if you don't think that you have them, open your eyes]

I listened to a pod-cast that was talking about how we grow as humans.  It said that one of the largest detriments to growth was our various biases.  

The first bias that we face is our "affinity bias."  This means that we tend to surround ourselves with people that we have an affinity for.  We surround ourselves with people like us.  The problem with this behavior is that it insulates us from the rest of life.  We never grow if our contacts are just the same as we are.

The second bias that we face is the "confirmation bias."  This is when we only read books that support our current view of the world.  [ie.  a fundamentalist church would not carry Rob Bell in their bookstore because he is "too liberal"]  Again, if we are controlling the information that comes to us by only allowing in ideas that confirm what we already believe, how will we ever grow?

The third bias is the "systems bias."  This is being a part of a church or a family system that works hard to keep things the status quo.  If it doesn't fit into the church or family system it is dangerous and it is out!!!

Friends, if we are not open to new ideas, if we are not open to other ideas, if we are not open, why is that?  Are we afraid that someone will disrupt our nice perfect boxed in life?  

A life lived without input from outside sources is not a life.  It certainly is not a pursuit of truth.  A life lived without interface with outside sources is simply an ego defense project.

It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to be the good.

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Sherri Swanson and I are leading a trip to New Zealand January 30-Feb 12, 2027
If you want to sign up, you can use my host number 17768 or Sherri's 57707
Here is a link for more information
Click here for New Zealand Info

Sherri Swanson and I are also leading a Canada/New England cruise in September of 2027
Here is the link for more information

click here for Canada New England cruise info