Grief

A young man grew up in our church.  He is the age of, and friends with my children - thirty something.  Five years ago he got married.

Last week he and his wife went to the hospital to have their first child.  There were complications.  The baby died.  The next day their were more complications.  His wife died.

A young man who went to the hospital with hopes and excitement for an expanded family, went home alone.

Horrible.  Brutal.  Inconceivable. Grief.  We are all grieving with him and his extended family.  Please pray for him.

Grief.  We want to fix it.  It cannot be fixed.  Don't try to fix people who are grieving.  Everyone has a right to grieve.  They have a right to feel what they feel and to work through it in their own way.  This is not a time for platitudes or foolish statements about God's will.  This is a time for love.  This is a time for hugs.  This is a time to sit with the grieving person and just be there.  Nothing needs to be said.  Nothing can be said.  Any words are just foolish.

If you get a chance to be there for a grieving person, just be there.  Don't try to fix things.  Just let your soul sit with their soul.