Triangulation is a concept in relationships where a conflict between two people is engaged in by a third person. For example, I have a beef with a co-worker, so I go to a third co-worker for help. Or in a family, a brother has an issue with a sister, but instead of working it out between the two of them, he goes to a third sibling in hopes that they can help resolve the situation.
Triangulation is never healthy. In his book, "Creating a healthier Church" Alan Richardson says, "one person cannot change the relationship between any two people; efforts to do so usually only make things worse. If you are person C in the triangle, you can only manage your own relationship with either A or B. You cannot do anything about the relationship between A and B. As soon as you take a side in the triangle, regardless of the righteousness of the cause or of the issues involved, you automatically become a part of the problem."If you are engaged in triangulation, you may want to take a step back. Let them work it out.
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