So I have learned something new that I want to share. I am not sure where I learned this from, but I have incorporated it into my life and it is helping.
We all ask people to do things. We all ask people for things. Sometimes, I have feelings that "this might be a big ask." Or, this might be inconvenient for them.
So rather than put them on the defensive by asking, I open with this statement: "I have something to ask you... and I want to be sure that you know that 'no' is an acceptable answer." I give them permission to say "No" before I even ask them.
They almost always say Yes, but giving them permission to say No totally deflates a potentially difficult situation.
Do you want to help me with...It is ok to say No. And I still love you.
It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to see the good.
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