Marital advice

A friend asked for some advice...

First of all, let me say that we all get married with very tall hopes and dreams.  We usually have expectations that are completely unrealistic.  Then 2, 5, 20 years down the road we have bumped into and bruised each other so many times.  It is very easy for couples to grow apart.

Free advice from Jeff.  It's free so you know what it is worth.

1.  talk things through.  talk.  listen.  talk.  stay with it.  Get your feelings out, both of you.  Keep talking.

2.  Work on common goals regarding children, in-laws and finances.  [see #1 as talking is necessary for step 2.]

3.  Compromise.  Maybe you don't like to go to the movies, but your partner does.  Go to the movies!!!  Lose an argument on purpose.  Give up every now and then.  

4.  Work on your own dysfunction.  None of us are finished products.

5.  Without becoming a doormat, put the other person first as much as you can.

6.  If it is in your power to make them happy,  make them happy.

7.  Say you are sorry.  Forgive the other person.

8.  Repeat steps 1-7.

It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to see the good.
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