Wednesday, June 29, 2016


There is an article on yahoo news about manipulation. I was up in the middle of the night for some reason, I read it and I wanted to share the high points with you. The article is about how to tell if you are dating someone who is manipulative, but the points apply well to any relationship.

here is the link if you want to read the entire thing. The bold in his blog is theirs, the comments afterwards are mine......

Psychology today defines manipulation as "the exercise of undue influence through mental distortion and emotional exploitation, with the intention to seize power, control, benefits, and privileges at the victim’s expense.”

1. They always want to know what you’re doing and who you’re seeing.

when people have to control you, it is not healthy........

2. You find yourself apologizing a lot to them for things you didn’t really think you did wrong.

in a healthy relationship you are celebrated and loved, not guilted or shamed.

3. You feel like they’re constantly judging you.

oh boy we all love that don't we?  judgment is the opposite of love.  Unconditional love accepts people as they are.

4. They say they forgive you but they don’t ever let you forget what you’ve done.

when you keep bringing up how someone did you wrong, you are filling your life and theirs with hurt.

5. You feel like you have to change parts of your personality to fit their moods.

in a real relationship, people not only allow you to be yourself, but they encourage you to do so.

6. They know your weaknesses and use them against you.

nice.  this is a very sick person.

7. You’ve given up on things in your life (things that you love) because they want you to.

how crazy is that?  if you want to go to Chicago for a weekend w your friends, you should be able to do that.  If you want to learn to bowl or ride horses, you should be able to do that.

8. They say you’re a “good girlfriend/boyfriend” if you do a list of certain things.

wow.  I hope no one who reads this blog is suffering in a relationship like this, but I know better.  Friends, life is good and it is to be lived!  Life is too short to waste it being treated poorly.  Step out into the light and live.  You will be glad that you did.

It's a beautiful day in God's world, be sure to see the good.

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